baby name game

Baby Name Game (Round 4), Clue #2

Intro

                                                                      Clue #1

So as I said last week, this baby will have three given names, followed by our last name.  That means she will have two middle names, with the second one being more of a “stick it on there because it looks/sounds pretty”, versus something she will forever be legally documenting.  All of our girls have the same formula for their names and this means

Clue #2, Baby Surprise’s second middle name will be a color name

Yes, we did this on a whim with our first, but it stuck for the second and we like that all of our girls will have this, both as a conversation piece and also as a common thread amongst them.  Why a color name?  Well, there’s no good answer to that.  I have some artistic background (and that’s mostly where I’ve come across the color names we’ve used previously, in oil paint sets and the like) and N appreciates and has a deep love for art.  So I guess you could say it harkens back to that.  A slight nod to our interests.

Least you think we will use something like Blue, Scarlett, or Violet, let me warn you first, though:

1) This color name is in a different color family than the others we’ve used before. This was important to me even though I found myself, once again, drawn to so many shades of blue, green, and purple and their prettily named variants. I would rather the girls each have their own shade.

Truthfully, I initially had my sights set on Marigold. This satisfied the equation since it is a yellowy-orange color, not one of the named above.  I also like that it had Downton Abbey ties, which is silly, but all of our girls so far, have had a piece of their name featured on the show.  but…

2) N really wanted us to use something that wasn’t so obvious. Since we often explain our girls’ names to people and then have to explain what color their color names actually describe, he wanted this baby to have her own illustrious but inconspicuous name.  He went on a hunt and came up with a short list to present to me (a first for both of us).  One name on there stuck out and long story short, it won.

It satisfies both criteria: different from the other colors we’ve chosen and uncommon enough that we have to tell people what color family it is from. (plus it sounds good with her name, which, of course was our unnamed third criteria).

So there you go.  Another piece of the convoluted puzzle as to how we come up with our babies’ names.  This one a shout-out to dad, who for the first time ever, both suggested and partially named one of our girls.

-smk

Clue #3

Baby Name Game (Round 4), Clue #1

If you haven’t already, check out our Intro to the Games here, first

It’s time to begin the clues and the first one should come to you with very little, well, surprise:

  1. This baby will have three given names, followed by our last name.

As I said previously, we have a little baby name box that we neatly try to fit all of our girls’ names into (and would-have-been-boys as well).  We didn’t start out thinking we would create our own baby naming guidebook (for ourselves), but after the first two were set just so, we wanted the third and fourth to feel a part of the group too.  Having three names to pick for EACH girl has been a little trying at times (especially towards the end), but also fun as it gives us a little bit more of a creative stretch.

In truth, almost no legal forms have ever asked for our girls’ second middle name; so in the eyes of the law, these names are nearly non-existent. BUT, we enjoy that each of our girls have the same formula to their names, a bond they can share over the years.

When they get married, they will almost certainly drop one, if not both, of their middle names.  But we like that they have the choice in that and which one they will keep going forward.  A theme you will see woven throughout is that we like to give our girls options.  Both N and I ALSO have two middle names as he was given two in the hospital (his parents couldn’t agree in the moment which one to use and therefore decided to go with both).  And I added my maiden name onto my legal name when I got married, in order to match, so technically I have two as well.

We are a family of four-namers, and we like it that way,

-smk

Clue #2

Baby Name Game, Round 4!

Well, here we are!  I’m 31 weeks, which is when I typically start this riveting game*, but I’m still running about a week behind because this is the INTRO into the game, not the first actual clue.  I *do* have a basic outline written for the clues, so it should be easy to pump them out soon, BUT, I’ve been catching up on other projects lately and with the holidays this week, this has not been as big of a priority as I would have liked.

As announced in the title, this is round 4!  Rounds 2 & 3, should be easy to find in the archives and round 1 was only visible to our “lucky” family.  Back when I was pregnant with MG, it started as a series of emails since we did not reveal the name to anyone prior to her birth. I still appreciate a good surprise (for others, not myself!) and I know I’ve said this many times, but just for the sake of fitting it neatly in here, I love the moment of the big reveal of our baby name.  Because we put so much thought into our names and because I feel like our chosen names say something about us, I revel in that moment of the announcement.  Right up until that very moment, I am sealed lips about the name and often have nightmares in which I accidentally tell someone or publish it publicly.  It just wouldn’t be the same to me if it went down that way.

I’ve been a name aficionado since, well about as long as I can remember.  I put a lot of deep thought into the names I gave my dolls and stuffed animals, pets, and then of course girls.  I spent money on baby name books long before we were pregnant and would flip through the pages,circling potential winners (those are pretty funny to look back on now!).  A badge of honor on my chest is that I’ve had multiple friends solicit my naming advice over the years (though in full disclosure, none have actually used any of my suggestions, to my knowledge).  I also have been able to successfully guess a few friends and acquaintances babies’ names prior to their birth (okay, like 3).  Nameberry.com has been my favorite naming website to consult through the years and even though I had given up on the idea of adding another little girl to our family some time ago, I, thankfully, still had a running list of inspirational names that we were able to draw from when we found out about our little surprise.

It is a topic I’ve chatted about, ad nauseam, to many friends, my sister, and my husband.  One of the saddest things about closing this chapter of my life is also not having any more future babies to name.  But because we follow a similar pattern with each of our girls, it has also gotten a little harder each time. And so, for that reason, it took us a little longer than usual to settle on this name. But that is all I will say for now.  The upcoming clues will give you some more peaks behind the scenes.

If you haven’t figured it out by now, this isn’t really a game at all.  The clues are specifically designed so that you CAN’T guess the actual name.  Really, this is an anticipation-building (hopefully) activity that can help pass the time for both of us and also give you some insight into the complicated logic of how we choose our dear daughters’ names.

Just a heads up that these clues are going to be very similar to the the rounds posted previously.  Some will be nearly identical, because, well, we have ourselves a little baby name box that we neatly outline each time.  What can we say, we didn’t think we were theme-y people, but look at us now!

After her birth, all will be revealed and I will break down the clues to help explain them further, as well as give you the total meaning behind her name.

That being said, and just to throw some confusion to the plot, there are actually SOME differences this time so I will leave you to read about those in the clues that follow.

Let the pre-gaming ceremonies begin!

-smk

(*”game” is a loose interpretation, depending on how much you enjoy being stumped for 10 weeks of vague “clues”)

Clue #1

Baby Name Game, Clue #10: the final cards

Clue #9

Okay no matter what, this will be the final baby name clue until the big reveal!  I promise I will also do a follow-up post to explain the meaning behind her name and these clues.  If you are confused by them, don’t worry!  They were intentionally written that way for a reason.  That being said, a few of you have submitted some REALLY good guesses so I am ready to finally be able to talk about it.

Clue #10: Both parts of our name have a lot of nickname potential and we chose one that is very uncommon

Bonus hint: None of our names are place names (that I’m aware of), there are countless book characters with these names (but not the two of them together, I don’t think), and a portion of our name would pass the test for royal baby names.

Baby Name Game, Clue #9: Iambic Pentameter

Clue #8

Here we are, one day before my calculated due date, and no sign of baby!  I honestly didn’t think we would go this distance with this one, but it looks like we are well on our way to the 18th of May or beyond.  Today I detailed the house, went for a morning walk with friends (and plan to go again with the fam tonight), will have spicy chicken enchiladas for dinner, and I’m bouncing on my ball all the live long day.

With all of the Braxton Hicks I’m having, I’ve been told that it’s a sign my body is ready but the baby is not.  I don’t think she’s engaged yet, so that makes sense.  But….I’m really hoping to get this show on the road soon and avoid induction if at all possible.  (Part of me thinks she may just be holding out for my parents to arrive—Friday).  Third baby and already proving to be our wildcard.

But on to the clue…as I’ve mentioned in just about every clue, we are going to give this baby a nickname.  Names that lend themselves well to nicknames tend to be mouthfuls, and this one is no exception.

Clue #9: this baby’s full name will be a complete10 syllables long (not including our last name)

MG got “blessed” with 9, Bea with 10, and this baby is following in their footsteps

Bonus hint: Just like our other two girls, this baby will be mostly called by a TWO-SYLLABLE nickname.

Clue #10

Baby Name Game, Clue #8: In the name of tradition

Clue #7

Name spelling is a hotly debated topic in the baby name enthusiasts world.  Most of the enthusiasts agree that tradition trumps phonetics.

We have one daughter that has a more phonetically spelled nickname (MG) and the other has the traditional.  Both still occasionally run into problems (that darn ‘e’, is it long or short?)

Research would tell you that two of our chosen names for Mayby have various spellings, while the other one has a pretty traditional, common spelling.

Clue #8: with all three of our names, we have chosen the most traditional spelling

Bonus Hint: often feminine names have a male counterpart…i.e. Stephanie to Stephan or Danielle to Daniel.  None of our names have a masculine form (at least that I am aware of)

Clue #9

Baby Name Game,Clue #7: guilty by association 

Clue #6

Being two (in some cases, former) educators, a lot of our baby name conversations involve shooting down each other’s suggestions due to previous associations.  “We can’t do ___ because I had one of those in class and s/he was always____”.    Even if we had a positive association with the name, often times it was just one student so it felt weird to use a baby name while having a visual image of only one other person who has the same name.

Having a child in preschool also lends an interesting dynamic to these conversations because we can see the names that seem to be trending upward and those names we also try to avoid.  No matter how unique a name is now, if it hits the top 50 in 5 years, no one will notice that you “used it first”.  (silly, but important to me)

So we’ve found the magic formula for naming our babies is to choose perhaps a more common name with a unique nickname.  The nickname needs to sound “on trend” without actually hitting the trend.  Make sense?

Clue #7 : Unlike our other girls’ names, we have previous associations with all 3 names (first, middle, nickname).  

This is a new one for us and it is initially why we didn’t entertain this name in the beginning. Ultimately we kept coming back to it and the associations are spread out enough (and more than one/varied) so we could justify it.

Bonus hint: two of the names have been featured on tv shows and it makes me a little nervous that it will sky rocket their popularity.  On the other hand, it could just make them a little bit more familiar to people who aren’t name enthusiasts, while they fly under the popularity radar for a few more years.  Fingers crossed for the latter!  

Clue #8

Baby Name Game, clue #6:Family Ties 

Clue #5

When it comes to naming our children, we often look first to our combined family trees.  Then we (and that means I) mash them up a little bit and play around with them to come up with something new but still, in my opinion, honoring.  Thankfully, N loves this idea just as much as I do and we have enjoyed telling our girls about the people they were named after and why.

Seeing how I also like vintage names, it helps that family trees often have a rich variety of names from the past.

Clue #6:  this baby will also have a name culled from our family tree

MG’s name honors 3 family members (it helps when two share a name!), Bea’s honors 4 (once again, 2 members share a name and one name is a mashup for the other 2).

This baby didn’t get quite as lucky in the family tree department but her name does honor someone significant to us.

Bonus Hint: although we didn’t necessarily choose it for this reason, one of her names has some Biblical roots

Clue #7

Baby Name Game, Clue #5: All the elements

Clue #4

I can’t believe we are halfway through the clues and I only have 5 more left! If you’ve been following along on Instagram, you know that I’ve had a few pre-term labor scares starting at the beginning of this month.  Thankfully nothing came out of them other than some thorough check-ups, but this baby has me convinced more than ever that she may not stay in until 40 weeks.  I’m a-OK with that, but ideally she would stay in at least 2 more weeks so she comes out as healthy as possible.

Until then, we wait…

Clue #5

When choosing this name, we stuck to our roots.  We like vintage, classic, and slightly unique.  Each name she has been given  (including the nickname, not including the color name) has one of these elements.

Bonus hint: Not only does the nickname not end in -a as I said last week, but neither the first name or the nickname share a common first letter with anyone else’s name in our family.

Clue #6

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