Last week we celebrated Bea’s birthday, the safe arrival of my nephew (!), and MG’s kindergarten graduation all on the same day. To conclude the celebratory high from the week, today is Sib’s birthday. One year old!
As if having one birthday for my girls last week wasn’t hard enough (on me), this week we get to have another one! I’ve said it before, the first birthday is rough. Knowing that this baby will be our last makes it even harder (emotionally).
But there have been so many good milestones this month, as well as the celebration cup overflowing. Much like the parenting descriptor for young children, it is the best of times, it is the worst of times.
One year ago today, at about 4:56pm EST (roughly one hour after she was born, as the first thirty or so minutes were filled with postpartum contractions while the remaining details of birth were wrapped up, to put it delicately), N and I kept looking at each other and saying, “what a good day” & “what a red letter day”. We could not stop affirming each other in how happy we were with our freshly grown family and the miracle of a healthy birth.
There is a certain high that comes over me after birth, when the anxiety, morning sickness, and discomfort sheds off of me like the discarded hospital gown. That high carries me through the months of interrupted sleep, the woes of carrying around extra pounds, and the out-of-control feelings wrought by surging hormones. And then we land at year one.
Somehow at this point, everything seems to have balanced itself out, tipping the scales towards the good side, and we are still so happy and so in love with our little Sib.
As far as newborn years seem to go, this year really was a pleasant one, and I wish I hadn’t paid attention to the consternation of the fear-mongering blogposts about third borns that wanted me to believe otherwise. My only two complaints from it is somewhere around 4 months, she forgot how to sleep at night.
Thankfully, as of this month and a three day intensive Sleep Boot Camp, we have turned the corner! Now I lay her down at 7:30pm and she wakes up at 7:30am. I still don’t feel well-rested (it will take me a while to recover from those interrupted 7 months), BUT I do now lay down without anxiety at night and that is a wonderful feeling. Sometime this month she also dropped her morning nap, so we are adjusting to that, but with summer arriving on its heels, a new schedule is warranted anyway. One that will open up our mornings will be most appreciated.
And I think I have to take some credit for this bad sleep. I didn’t brush up on my healthy sleep habits in this pregnancy, relying on my former knowledge and status of two well-sleeping children. PLUS the year of 2016 added to the mix, and I got us into some bad habits (like feeding her right before every nap). Once we turned that around, a huge improvement was noticed.
My other complaint, which isn’t really a complaint, just a negative marker from this first year, was her sick bouts. She didn’t get sick often, but when she did, it was INTENSE. She still has some kind of vomiting issue that hasn’t been 100% resolved yet. My ped thinks it’s some kind of immaturity that will get worked as she gets older. It’s possibly related to food, maybe dairy or gluten. But it doesn’t happen every time she has those foods, so a mystery to be solved another day.
There were two times we took her to the ER in the first year and the first being a very long stay. Thankfully our girl made a full recovery both times and is a happy little thing now.
She is moving slowly but forcefully through her first year milestones. Most noticeably this month, she’s been pulling up to a stand and can even balance holding on with just one hand. My gut stays it will be still some time until she is walking and she has not even attempted to climb the stairs. Consequently, baby-proofing is going rather lazily, much like her new tricks, and I am a-ok with that.
This month has been the month of messes. There is a kitchen drawer that holds all the plastic baby things: cups, bowls, and the like. She will empty that drawer, move on to the drawer that has metal sheet pans and cake pans (which makes for a noisy dinner prep), then move on to the baby toy basket. She’s also figured out how to open cabinets. Not good for our game cabinet which feels like it has a 1,000 tiny pieces and takes 100 years to clean up properly. As of yet, at least, she’s not a mouthy baby like Bea and doesn’t seem to put every little thing inside.
She loves to pull up on our coffee table, which is just the right height for her to see everything on it when properly standing, and narrow enough to access anything lying on it. I had gotten in the habit of keeping our two tv remotes displayed on it for easy access. She loves to throw them on the floor. I’ve come to determine I can either leave them there for the remainder of the day where they will never be disturbed again, or I can pick them up each time, where they will be forcefully dropped promptly. These are the battles I am fighting each day.
Messes also come in the form of meals. Now that she is self-feeding, I find myself dutifully vacuuming the floor beneath her chair after every meal and snack. I’ve never wished for a dog more. She is slowly graduating away from pouches, and for that I’m most grateful. But still a picky little one. She is more apt to eat proteins: meats and eggs and beans. She will not self-feed fruit, other than blueberries. Veggies are a limited palette. And she does not care for cheese in any form. I was able to get her to start enjoying crackers this month so that is a win because they take a while to eat and she is quite demanding when hungry.
That being said, she is my medium-sized baby (despite her head start at birth), coming in at 20lbs to close out her first year. Bea was 21 and MG 18, so she falls right in the middle. As far as height is concerned, however, she is still losing the race on that one to the other two.
Also losing the race is her hair growth…after the initial brown shock of it, it slowed, changed to copper, then to an ashy blonde. Sometimes it curls and sticks straight up, other times it lays flat. I still don’t really know what it is going to look like as it is the same cornsilk blonde MG’s was at this age, and now, six years later, hers is a dishwater color.
Despite my complaints above, she has been an easy baby. Teeth have been a non-issue other than the pools and pools of drool. Spit-up only surfaced around month seven when she would eat solids and then immediately go to her belly. I don’t think she is our happiest baby (Bea wins that award), but I think she is definitely our giggliest. It is very easy to pull a belly laugh out of her by force (tickle), or just by looking at her funny. She is expressive in her entire face.
On the other hand, her cry is still a piercing newborn part-scream, part-holler. We commented on it when she was first born and she has not ditched it yet. She doesn’t use this technique often, but when she does, we all come running. #thirdchildwins
If I had to guess, I think weaning will be a non-issue. We are already down to twice a day, not because she is disinterested, but mostly because she isn’t really interested if I don’t offer. One thing I will say about the third is that they are nothing if not flexible. She has been going with our easy flow since day one.
Well to send off this year, I made a video, part of my tradition of the first birthday. It has been bittersweet to reminisce but honestly, I am thankful that year is behind us and we can look back wistfully but never relive it. Raising Sibby has been a joy and I pray God grants us many more years together to enjoy.