Not that I think I’m some sort of celebrity with a FAQ section,

but the truth is, as soon as you announce your pregnancy, you tend to get asked a lot of the same questions.

Like:

1) How are you feeling? Terrible.  Can I be honest? Absolutely terrible.  I’ve been nauseated morning, noon, and night since 5.5 weeks.  I’ve had a few days of reprieve in recent weeks, most notably around weeks 9-10, but it came back with a vengeance last week.  Consider that this reprieve came after 32 days of feeling like I was on the verge of food poisoning.  I hate to complain, but seeing as how I haven’t been able to vomit out all of my sickness, I’m going to vomit out my feelings.  Even my “good days” aren’t in reality all that great.  A good day is waking up feeling normal, eat breakfast, two hours later feel nauseated.  Eat whatever carbs are on hand that haven’t already been deemed adverse in order to slay it.  Repeat every two hours.  This must be timed well with bedtime otherwise,  tossing and turning will be met with a rolling stomach.

 

But that is considered a good day because I don’t have to function with the constant nagging feeling that I am going to vomit everywhere.  Add onto this: extreme fatigue, raging hormones, and eating things that the inside of my body rarely sees.  These things mingled together have put me in somewhat of a depressive funk.  I just haven’t felt like myself in weeks.  And that has surprisingly(?)  caught me off guard. However, the light is at the end of the tunnel.  This trimester ends on Saturday and it can only get better from here, right?

 

That is my honest answer to that question, however, I hope it doesn’t diminish the fact that this pregnancy was so desired and longed-for.  I know that there are many women who would do anything to have a bout of morning sickness.  I feel you. So please don’t take this in any way as ungratefulness.  

 

2) Were you sick with your first? Yes and no.  With MG, I got sick on the exact same day, 5.5 weeksinto it.  I threw up a lot more in the beginning, but I think that’s just because I didn’t realize that eating somehow curbs the puking.  It’s a very weird thing.  I just don’t remember it lasting this long or being this intense.  Maybe that’s because I wasn’t chasing around a toddler at the time or maybe it’s because this time I was on a progesterone supplement (which they say magnifies your symptoms)  Or maybe it’s just because it is the second. Who really knows?  It’s a very strange thing.

 

3) Do you have any cravings?  Just like last time, cravings and aversions both.  Cravings come on strong and must.be.satisfied.asap.  Mostly to comfort foods: mac and cheese, biscuits and gravy, avocadoes, peanut butter, turkey sandwiches, pb&j’s,  cheese.etc.  The most surprising has been mayo.  Not like I want to eat it plain or anything (sick!), but I want it on sandwiches and find myself dreaming about things that are made from it.  Surprising because non-pregnant me sees mayo and wants to gag.   But somehow it becomes not only acceptable, but desirable come pregnancy.

Once a craving has been obtained, and deemed desirable, I must have it one other time.  And one other time only. After that, the craving has officially been satisfied and I do not want to see it ever.again.  Aversions have been to meat, vinegar-y things, sweets that aren’t sour, and anything with a strong odor.  Most unfortunately, this time of year I usually gorge myself on PSL’s, Reese’s pumpkins, and copious handfuls of mallow-creme pumpkins.  This year, I haven’t had a single bite/sip.  Not even a candy corn.  I think I’ll buy a couple of bags on clearance and save them for when I am finally in the mood.  Such a shame to be sick during this time of year.

4) Does MG know that she is going to be a big sis? Nope.  She has absolutely no concept of it.  She is a sweet and nurturing little soul to her babies, so I’m really hoping that trait pays off.    Worthy of note: recent time spent with a few newborns definitely shows some jealousy issues springing up.  Trying to figure out now how best to handle this.  Any advice?
5) Are you going to find out what you are having?  YES!  No part of me wants to wait.  I want to find out early and often.  Which always leads too…

 

6) Do you have a preference?  I’d be lying if I said I/we didn’t.  I’m sure I’ll share more on that later.

 

7) Do you have any inklings? Yes.  More on that later too.  But let’s not forget, I was wrong last time.

 

8) Do you have a name picked out?  Of course!  I’m too much of a planner to leave that one to whim.  In fact, shortly after MG was born, I felt the burning desire to name siblings for her.  Only because I wanted to make sure I would like them for a lengthy amount of time.

We are both highly attached to our girl name and have settled on a boy name too.  I also have two alternates, one boy and girl.  Have I ever mentioned how I have a peculiar fascination with baby names?  I’m sure I’ll touch on that later.  Until then, we’ve decided to call it Mayby (and if a certain pop song did NOT just make its way through your head, consider yourself a winner in the pop culture wars!  seriously, I am envious)

 

9) Are you sharing it?  Uh-uh.  Nope.  Sorry.  Just like last time, we will keep you in suspense till the bitter (and considering the way my body loves to be pregnant), I do mean bitter end.

 

10) Will you consider the epidural this time?  Consider it?  Yes.  Beg for it again?  Probably.  To say I haven’t been more than a little preoccupied with the thought of back labor and lengthy pushes again would be a lie.  Last time was different.  Last time I was blissfully naive.  This time, I have to have a solid gameplan in place or else I’m going to spend the next 6 months paralyzed in pre-labor purgatory.  Part of that gameplan has been to switch doctors to a practice that will give me up to two weeks before forcing an induction (of course pending on the baby’s and my health) and to a hospital that will allow me to have access to a birthing tub (not to give birth in which is illegal here, but to labor in).   The birthing tub is my focal point.  It is the one thing I did not get to try last time and I think it would have made a world of difference in my pain management.  At least that is what I am hyping myself up with.  Second babies come faster and easier…right?  RIGHT?  Did you hear that, Mayby?  Mama is counting on you!

 

Thanks for your interest (whether intentional or not!) friends,

Personal note: Of course now that I have shared my  exciting news, I have a whole host of new topics to discuss!  But my basic blog philosophy will remain the same…I’ll still be sharing glimpses of our life, new mama advice, cute pics of MG etc.  Plus, I really want to share the entire story of our Mayby.  I’m working on it, but I still need some time to do it justice.  So hang in here with me as I interrupt our regularly scheduled programming with some pregnancy-related stuff.  But know that I‘m still the same Sweet Mama K.  Just with a little spring in my step and bump on my belly 🙂

30 Comments on FAQ’s

  1. Kerry Russell
    November 7, 2012 at 8:03 pm (5 years ago)

    So excited for you and looking forward to reading about your journey with #2! I was thinking the other day how I ate easy mac, ramen and pizza rolls in my first trimester. So weird and gross to me now!

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  2. Kerry Russell
    November 7, 2012 at 8:03 pm (5 years ago)

    So excited for you and looking forward to reading about your journey with #2! I was thinking the other day how I ate easy mac, ramen and pizza rolls in my first trimester. So weird and gross to me now!

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  3. the cuthberts
    November 7, 2012 at 8:12 pm (5 years ago)

    hang in there! pregnancy is not my thing (at.all.) but SO worth it (obviously). Fatigue was ridiculous round two first tri…I hope it gets better! And MG will love being a big sis–once the dust settles, she won't even remember a time when she wasn't:) and I was induced with numero uno and it was days until he showed up (literally). #2? 6 hours from first contraction to delivery. congrats again!!!

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  4. the cuthberts
    November 7, 2012 at 8:12 pm (5 years ago)

    hang in there! pregnancy is not my thing (at.all.) but SO worth it (obviously). Fatigue was ridiculous round two first tri…I hope it gets better! And MG will love being a big sis–once the dust settles, she won't even remember a time when she wasn't:) and I was induced with numero uno and it was days until he showed up (literally). #2? 6 hours from first contraction to delivery. congrats again!!!

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  5. Johanna
    November 7, 2012 at 8:32 pm (5 years ago)

    I love reading your blog, Kate! I have thought (often!) to myself that when I do get pregnant one day, I will refer back to some of your older posts for advice and comfort. 🙂 Congratulations to you on what sounds like an incredible blessing of a pregnancy! I'm anxious to hear the whole story of Mayby. -Johanna “Huitsing” Hendrikse 🙂

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  6. Johanna
    November 7, 2012 at 8:32 pm (5 years ago)

    I love reading your blog, Kate! I have thought (often!) to myself that when I do get pregnant one day, I will refer back to some of your older posts for advice and comfort. 🙂 Congratulations to you on what sounds like an incredible blessing of a pregnancy! I'm anxious to hear the whole story of Mayby. -Johanna “Huitsing” Hendrikse 🙂

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  7. tricia
    November 8, 2012 at 1:42 am (5 years ago)

    Love this; you are great! So glad you and N came to a decision about Dr/ hosp dilema, can't wait for the update! Hang in there and if you need anything don't hesitate I'm a literal step away!!

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  8. tricia
    November 8, 2012 at 1:42 am (5 years ago)

    Love this; you are great! So glad you and N came to a decision about Dr/ hosp dilema, can't wait for the update! Hang in there and if you need anything don't hesitate I'm a literal step away!!

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  9. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:54 am (5 years ago)

    Ha–isn't it funny how we eat so healthily until the stick turns pink! Then everything is thrown out the window-at least until the second trimester. I guess we have to give the baby what it wants, even if it is sour patch kids and fish sticks!

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  10. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:54 am (5 years ago)

    Ha–isn't it funny how we eat so healthily until the stick turns pink! Then everything is thrown out the window-at least until the second trimester. I guess we have to give the baby what it wants, even if it is sour patch kids and fish sticks!

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  11. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:56 am (5 years ago)

    Thanks–your story of #2 def gives me hope! I appreciate the encouragement on MG's relationship with #2 too….with so many changes coming it is more than just a little scary!

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  12. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:56 am (5 years ago)

    Thanks–your story of #2 def gives me hope! I appreciate the encouragement on MG's relationship with #2 too….with so many changes coming it is more than just a little scary!

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  13. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:56 am (5 years ago)

    Thank you so, so much, Johanna! That is one of the best compliments I can receive! Thanks for sharing that with me 🙂

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  14. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:56 am (5 years ago)

    Thank you so, so much, Johanna! That is one of the best compliments I can receive! Thanks for sharing that with me 🙂

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  15. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:58 am (5 years ago)

    thank, Tricia! You've done so much for me already…I love having generous neighbors!

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  16. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 2:58 am (5 years ago)

    thank, Tricia! You've done so much for me already…I love having generous neighbors!

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  17. Becca
    November 8, 2012 at 5:29 pm (5 years ago)

    I totally wanted mayo too when I was pregnant with Hannah! It didn't quite make my list of cravings, but when ordering a sandwich at Potbelly (typically sans mayo for obvious reasons), it was a must when pregnant.

    I sure hope MG does okay with Hannah around this weekend…

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  18. Becca
    November 8, 2012 at 5:29 pm (5 years ago)

    I totally wanted mayo too when I was pregnant with Hannah! It didn't quite make my list of cravings, but when ordering a sandwich at Potbelly (typically sans mayo for obvious reasons), it was a must when pregnant.

    I sure hope MG does okay with Hannah around this weekend…

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  19. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 6:04 pm (5 years ago)

    That's so funny! I feel like we had very similar food issues with pregnancy.

    I really think she will be fine. She typically loves and is very drawn to babies (from a safe distance of course). It's just that when I or N holds them she either gives of the evil eye or asks to be held too. That seems to be the extent of it so far. So I hope I didn't worry you!

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  20. Sweet Mama K
    November 8, 2012 at 6:04 pm (5 years ago)

    That's so funny! I feel like we had very similar food issues with pregnancy.

    I really think she will be fine. She typically loves and is very drawn to babies (from a safe distance of course). It's just that when I or N holds them she either gives of the evil eye or asks to be held too. That seems to be the extent of it so far. So I hope I didn't worry you!

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  21. Rachel Jones
    November 8, 2012 at 7:16 pm (5 years ago)

    love the FAQ's!
    I was sooo nervous about having #2 with them being so close together and wondering how L would adjust and if she'd feel unloved/jealous, I had NO idea what she'd do while I was nursing and if she'd just freak out, etc…But really none of my fears came true and though she didn't seem herself for some days and wasn't sure what to think about this baby, she adjusted quickly and each week just got better and better and now it's just the norm. She knows N is in the other room and says “NOAH!!” when he cries and gives him hugs and kisses.
    I mostly kept them separated the first couple weeks since our sweet gentle girl wasn't so sweet and gentle with little brother but that is very rarely the case now and being gentle natured, her “not gentle” was never very rough 🙂 Very thankful for that and MG will be at an age where you can explain more and she will understand more which will be helpful. I was so nervous with this happening and afraid L would have NO idea whats going on but she's done so well and it's just ALL been WAY better than I could have imagined. I also recovered so much better the 2nd time around. I wasn't in any emotional funks like first time around and nursing was super easy, just knew what to expect so much more which was really great.
    I'm so excited for you and I'm sure MG will do well & praying you feel better ASAP!!!

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  22. Rachel Jones
    November 8, 2012 at 7:16 pm (5 years ago)

    love the FAQ's!
    I was sooo nervous about having #2 with them being so close together and wondering how L would adjust and if she'd feel unloved/jealous, I had NO idea what she'd do while I was nursing and if she'd just freak out, etc…But really none of my fears came true and though she didn't seem herself for some days and wasn't sure what to think about this baby, she adjusted quickly and each week just got better and better and now it's just the norm. She knows N is in the other room and says “NOAH!!” when he cries and gives him hugs and kisses.
    I mostly kept them separated the first couple weeks since our sweet gentle girl wasn't so sweet and gentle with little brother but that is very rarely the case now and being gentle natured, her “not gentle” was never very rough 🙂 Very thankful for that and MG will be at an age where you can explain more and she will understand more which will be helpful. I was so nervous with this happening and afraid L would have NO idea whats going on but she's done so well and it's just ALL been WAY better than I could have imagined. I also recovered so much better the 2nd time around. I wasn't in any emotional funks like first time around and nursing was super easy, just knew what to expect so much more which was really great.
    I'm so excited for you and I'm sure MG will do well & praying you feel better ASAP!!!

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  23. Rachel Jones
    November 8, 2012 at 7:16 pm (5 years ago)

    PS Sorry for the novel!

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  24. Rachel Jones
    November 8, 2012 at 7:16 pm (5 years ago)

    PS Sorry for the novel!

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  25. C
    November 8, 2012 at 7:25 pm (5 years ago)

    I bought sour patch kids at the movies recently and about fell over when I looked at the carb count. Ughhhh so delish!

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  26. C
    November 8, 2012 at 7:25 pm (5 years ago)

    I bought sour patch kids at the movies recently and about fell over when I looked at the carb count. Ughhhh so delish!

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  27. Sweet Mama K
    November 9, 2012 at 2:12 am (5 years ago)

    I know…some things are best left unknown :/

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  28. Sweet Mama K
    November 9, 2012 at 2:12 am (5 years ago)

    I know…some things are best left unknown :/

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  29. Sweet Mama K
    November 9, 2012 at 2:13 am (5 years ago)

    Thank you so much, Rachel! I love all of your encouraging feedback. I'm so glad there are others who have done this before me that I can look up too. Thanks!

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  30. Sweet Mama K
    November 9, 2012 at 2:13 am (5 years ago)

    Thank you so much, Rachel! I love all of your encouraging feedback. I'm so glad there are others who have done this before me that I can look up too. Thanks!

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