Not that I think I’m some sort of celebrity with a FAQ section,
but the truth is, as soon as you announce your pregnancy, you tend to get asked a lot of the same questions.
1) How are you feeling? Terrible. Can I be honest? Absolutely terrible. I’ve been nauseated morning, noon, and night since 5.5 weeks. I’ve had a few days of reprieve in recent weeks, most notably around weeks 9-10, but it came back with a vengeance last week. Consider that this reprieve came after 32 days of feeling like I was on the verge of food poisoning. I hate to complain, but seeing as how I haven’t been able to vomit out all of my sickness, I’m going to vomit out my feelings. Even my “good days” aren’t in reality all that great. A good day is waking up feeling normal, eat breakfast, two hours later feel nauseated. Eat whatever carbs are on hand that haven’t already been deemed adverse in order to slay it. Repeat every two hours. This must be timed well with bedtime otherwise, tossing and turning will be met with a rolling stomach.
But that is considered a good day because I don’t have to function with the constant nagging feeling that I am going to vomit everywhere. Add onto this: extreme fatigue, raging hormones, and eating things that the inside of my body rarely sees. These things mingled together have put me in somewhat of a depressive funk. I just haven’t felt like myself in weeks. And that has surprisingly(?) caught me off guard. However, the light is at the end of the tunnel. This trimester ends on Saturday and it can only get better from here, right?
That is my honest answer to that question, however, I hope it doesn’t diminish the fact that this pregnancy was so desired and longed-for. I know that there are many women who would do anything to have a bout of morning sickness. I feel you. So please don’t take this in any way as ungratefulness.
2) Were you sick with your first? Yes and no. With MG, I got sick on the exact same day, 5.5 weeksinto it. I threw up a lot more in the beginning, but I think that’s just because I didn’t realize that eating somehow curbs the puking. It’s a very weird thing. I just don’t remember it lasting this long or being this intense. Maybe that’s because I wasn’t chasing around a toddler at the time or maybe it’s because this time I was on a progesterone supplement (which they say magnifies your symptoms) Or maybe it’s just because it is the second. Who really knows? It’s a very strange thing.
3) Do you have any cravings? Just like last time, cravings and aversions both. Cravings come on strong and must.be.satisfied.asap. Mostly to comfort foods: mac and cheese, biscuits and gravy, avocadoes, peanut butter, turkey sandwiches, pb&j’s, cheese.etc. The most surprising has been mayo. Not like I want to eat it plain or anything (sick!), but I want it on sandwiches and find myself dreaming about things that are made from it. Surprising because non-pregnant me sees mayo and wants to gag. But somehow it becomes not only acceptable, but desirable come pregnancy.
Once a craving has been obtained, and deemed desirable, I must have it one other time. And one other time only. After that, the craving has officially been satisfied and I do not want to see it ever.again. Aversions have been to meat, vinegar-y things, sweets that aren’t sour, and anything with a strong odor. Most unfortunately, this time of year I usually gorge myself on PSL’s, Reese’s pumpkins, and copious handfuls of mallow-creme pumpkins. This year, I haven’t had a single bite/sip. Not even a candy corn. I think I’ll buy a couple of bags on clearance and save them for when I am finally in the mood. Such a shame to be sick during this time of year.
4) Does MG know that she is going to be a big sis? Nope. She has absolutely no concept of it. She is a sweet and nurturing little soul to her babies, so I’m really hoping that trait pays off. Worthy of note: recent time spent with a few newborns definitely shows some jealousy issues springing up. Trying to figure out now how best to handle this. Any advice?
5) Are you going to find out what you are having? YES! No part of me wants to wait. I want to find out early and often. Which always leads too…
6) Do you have a preference? I’d be lying if I said I/we didn’t. I’m sure I’ll share more on that later.
7) Do you have any inklings? Yes. More on that later too. But let’s not forget, I was wrong last time.
8) Do you have a name picked out? Of course! I’m too much of a planner to leave that one to whim. In fact, shortly after MG was born, I felt the burning desire to name siblings for her. Only because I wanted to make sure I would like them for a lengthy amount of time.
We are both highly attached to our girl name and have settled on a boy name too. I also have two alternates, one boy and girl. Have I ever mentioned how I have a peculiar fascination with baby names? I’m sure I’ll touch on that later. Until then, we’ve decided to call it Mayby (and if a certain pop song did NOT just make its way through your head, consider yourself a winner in the pop culture wars! seriously, I am envious)
9) Are you sharing it? Uh-uh. Nope. Sorry. Just like last time, we will keep you in suspense till the bitter (and considering the way my body loves to be pregnant), I do mean bitter end.
10) Will you consider the epidural this time? Consider it? Yes. Beg for it again? Probably. To say I haven’t been more than a little preoccupied with the thought of back labor and lengthy pushes again would be a lie. Last time was different. Last time I was blissfully naive. This time, I have to have a solid gameplan in place or else I’m going to spend the next 6 months paralyzed in pre-labor purgatory. Part of that gameplan has been to switch doctors to a practice that will give me up to two weeks before forcing an induction (of course pending on the baby’s and my health) and to a hospital that will allow me to have access to a birthing tub (not to give birth in which is illegal here, but to labor in). The birthing tub is my focal point. It is the one thing I did not get to try last time and I think it would have made a world of difference in my pain management. At least that is what I am hyping myself up with. Second babies come faster and easier…right? RIGHT? Did you hear that, Mayby? Mama is counting on you!
Thanks for your interest (whether intentional or not!) friends,
Personal note: Of course now that I have shared my exciting news, I have a whole host of new topics to discuss! But my basic blog philosophy will remain the same…I’ll still be sharing glimpses of our life, new mama advice, cute pics of MG etc. Plus, I really want to share the entire story of our Mayby. I’m working on it, but I still need some time to do it justice. So hang in here with me as I interrupt our regularly scheduled programming with some pregnancy-related stuff. But know that I‘m still the same Sweet Mama K. Just with a little spring in my step and bump on my belly 🙂