1) how’s it going? well, all things considered, it’s going pretty well! If you were to ask me now, of course with limited perspective only 9 days into it, I’d say the shift from zero to one is MUCH harder than the shift from one to two. Granted, we are still in the honeymoon stage and Bea sleeps most of the day and night away, so I really can’t complain. Plus, my level of confidence is much higher. I’m relying more on intuition and less on Dr. Google. Finally we’ve had lots of help from friends and family. Meals dropped off, offers of help, + my sister and BIL came in town this weekend and really spoiled us.
Sadly, Daddy returns to work tomorrow, so I guess that will be the true test. But for now:
(she’s a very smiley baby, both awake and asleep!)
An easy baby + second timer’s’ intuition + lots of help =an easy adjustment
2) how is MG doing? she is doing so well. She is a wonderful helper and nurturer. She doesn’t get rattled when Bea cries and instead tries to help us figure out a solution (9/10 her solution is the paci :)). She also still wants to help with every diaper change, retrieving items for me, and wants to hold Bea quite often. Thankfully, the novelty hasn’t worn off yet. She has not shown any aggression or jealousy towards the baby but she has acted out in other ways. She definitely has become very needy/whiny in other areas and we’ve seen some regression with the potty. But I’ll take it considering everything else has gone so well!
3) how is Bea eating/sleeping? like a newborn! She eats every 2-4 hours and sleeps like a log in between. It is hard to keep her up during and a little after feedings during the day, but not a night. She is somewhat of a night-owl, as I predicted :). In the hospital, she showed some signs of reflux so we elevated her mattress and keep her upright after feeding her and the problem seems to have resolved. Probably just normal newborn immaturity.
When MG was born, having nothing to compare it to, I thought she was one of the easiest newborns. This little one has been even more of a breeze. A rare crier (I don’t think we’ve heard her full on cry ever). She is soothed and put to sleep pretty easily and she eats very well too. Her umbilical cord stump fell off on day 5 and she is almost out of newborn diapers. Growing by leaps and bounds!
4) who does she look like? well, like herself? I can’t say that she really looks like either N or I, and I guess she looks a little like newborn MG. Still, I was surprised when I first met her at how she didn’t really resemble any of us! Now that it has been a few days, I think she will look more like me. It will be fun to see how she grows and changes.
5) what is the difference between the first and second? this time around, my confidence is so much higher, my recovery has been so much better, and I’ve accepted a lot more support and help. Less guilt, less worry, less anxiety. Much more laissez-faire. This has made a HUGE difference in my perspective and enjoyment of this time period. Breastfeeding this time around, rather than feeling like a painful and taxing schedule, has been a welcome and quiet respite. I’m also enjoying the huge appetite increase while watching the pounds slide away. A very welcome change from the discomforts of pregnancy!
It also already makes me sad to think about this time going by. I has already gone by so fast with the days and nights coming together in one big blur. As much as you are excited to see them grow and change, you hope it doesn’t go by too fast without memories recorded, pictures taken, and thoughts tucked away to be treasured later.
6) what is your favorite thing about her? okay no one really asks this, but my favorite thing about her is her silky black hair. I never thought I’d be blessed with anything but a bald-haired baby and both of my babies surprised us with a little (albeit a little) hair. MG’s was a mahogany brown color, but Bea’s is this beautiful shade of black.
I love it and her so much. My heart is full.