I want them so badly.

I want a little sister for MG.  A playmate, a buddy, a lifelong friend.

A confidant, a personal shopper, a maid-of-honor, a pregnancy partner.

A pair that will fight but always make up, stay up too late laughing, and always have each other’s back.

I felt it the most on a day we went to the splash park this summer.  All of the other kids were there in groups.  She was the only one flying solo.  Our friends were easy to find there, but a part from them, it was just the two of us.  And I fiercely wanted a buddy for her.  A built-in-life-long friend.

A sister-brother relationship has infinite value, to be sure, but it’s one that I know nothing about.  I am ready for another little girl.  So I’m just going to put it out there now.

Mayby, if you are a boy, I will probably erase this someday so that you won’t read it.  But I might not either, because maybe I will be able to tell you about how I “ordered” a girl (as my Nanow would say) but God had other plans for me.  And I never would have known the love for a little boy if I didn’t have you.  And I hope you will cut me some slack (if you even care at all….).  Because….

when I think about having a boy, these are the questions I wonder:

who will wear all of MG’s ‘very gently’ worn baby clothes?  I miss them already.
what if we don’t get to use our girl name that we love so much?
where do I find cute boy clothes? And (more importantly) what if he’s bald?  you can’t exactly use a huge bow to cover that up.
what do I do during that awkward/clumsy/pre-pubescent 4th-8th grade boy phase?  I just don’t get it.
what if all he wants to do is play soccer?  I loathe watching soccer.
how will our house hold up under the weight of a crazy/clumsy/muddy/sweaty little boy?
I spent 2.5 years learning how to be a mom of a girl.  How hard is it going to be to change gears come May?

And the one that scares me the most:
-what if I never have another little girl?

And the one that keeps N awake:
what if I attach more to a relationship with my son to the detriment of my relationship with MG?

These are the questions that plague me/us at night.  So, Mamas of boys, should the ultrasound turn up blue, I’m going to need you to talk me through these, okay?  Consider yourselves warned.

On the plus side,

+I do love watching football
+I can make some pretty mean animal noises
+Having to do some more baby clothes shopping doesn’t sound like the worst idea…and…
+Old Navy has the cutest, grey chevron onesies, PLUS H&M just opened up a kids section here
+I do consider myself quite the Lego-building-extraordinarre
+We live mere minutes (okay maybe a couple hours) away from Dinosaur World.
+It would be nice to have another gentleman (in-training) in the house
+Having a Mama’s boy doesn’t sound like the worst thing in the world

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I’m definitely having some Mommy instincts about what I’m having and I plan to share those with you soon.  Then you can all weigh in with me and predict what we’re having.  Unfortunately, we still have 5 terribly long days to wait until we know for sure.  In the meantime, I’ll be pinning cute boy clothes and lots and lots of tiny hats.  Just in case,

14 Comments on Sister girls

  1. C
    December 19, 2012 at 11:38 pm (5 years ago)

    Ill help ya out! I totally understand how you feel..though it was opposite. I still think its a girl! And if it isn't? Guess you'll have to try for a third!

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  2. C
    December 19, 2012 at 11:38 pm (5 years ago)

    Ill help ya out! I totally understand how you feel..though it was opposite. I still think its a girl! And if it isn't? Guess you'll have to try for a third!

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  3. Anonymous
    December 20, 2012 at 12:02 am (5 years ago)

    I finally figured out how to post comments on here!

    Let me start by saying that I hope for your sake that you have a little baby girl. I want that for you because I know that's what YOU want, and I know how you feel about surprises 🙂 I don't have to tell you why having another mini-Kate would be great, because you have already outlined it so beautifully above. All I can offer is what I experienced, and I wouldn't change a thing…

    Growing up with brothers and no sisters, I absolutely LOVED my childhood. I was dirty and sporty and obsessed with wearing my brothers' hand-me-downs. I am so grateful that I wasn't hung up on clothes and makeup and that I was was blissfully unaware of my prolonged (we're talking 8 years) awkward phase. As a recovering tomboy, I now really enjoy clothes and pink things and, yes, dressing up my (male) dog. But, I wouldn't trade my upbringing for anything and I absolutely adore my relationships with both of my brothers. Plus, I did end up getting sisters (in-law) when my brothers got married, and I am grateful that we met and became family exactly when we did (without the teenage fights over boys and bathroom time).

    I am posting this preemptively, JUST IN CASE your little pink line is actually a little blue baby. And if it's a girl, awesome, because If I have daughters someday I will be calling and texting you incessantly for answers.

    Julie

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  4. Anonymous
    December 20, 2012 at 12:02 am (5 years ago)

    I finally figured out how to post comments on here!

    Let me start by saying that I hope for your sake that you have a little baby girl. I want that for you because I know that's what YOU want, and I know how you feel about surprises 🙂 I don't have to tell you why having another mini-Kate would be great, because you have already outlined it so beautifully above. All I can offer is what I experienced, and I wouldn't change a thing…

    Growing up with brothers and no sisters, I absolutely LOVED my childhood. I was dirty and sporty and obsessed with wearing my brothers' hand-me-downs. I am so grateful that I wasn't hung up on clothes and makeup and that I was was blissfully unaware of my prolonged (we're talking 8 years) awkward phase. As a recovering tomboy, I now really enjoy clothes and pink things and, yes, dressing up my (male) dog. But, I wouldn't trade my upbringing for anything and I absolutely adore my relationships with both of my brothers. Plus, I did end up getting sisters (in-law) when my brothers got married, and I am grateful that we met and became family exactly when we did (without the teenage fights over boys and bathroom time).

    I am posting this preemptively, JUST IN CASE your little pink line is actually a little blue baby. And if it's a girl, awesome, because If I have daughters someday I will be calling and texting you incessantly for answers.

    Julie

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  5. Sweet Mama K
    December 20, 2012 at 7:10 pm (5 years ago)

    Thank you, C! It's nice to know someone who feels the same way (even though it's the opposite :)) and even better a Mom to be of 2 boys!

    Julie–thank you so much for your sweet words. They definitely made me tear up a little as that is the kind of relationship
    I want MG to have with her siblings, no matter what the genders are. Thank you for that encouragement today!

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  6. Sweet Mama K
    December 20, 2012 at 7:10 pm (5 years ago)

    Thank you, C! It's nice to know someone who feels the same way (even though it's the opposite :)) and even better a Mom to be of 2 boys!

    Julie–thank you so much for your sweet words. They definitely made me tear up a little as that is the kind of relationship
    I want MG to have with her siblings, no matter what the genders are. Thank you for that encouragement today!

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  7. Rachel Jones
    December 21, 2012 at 3:02 am (5 years ago)

    I had the same fears for sure but the moment that boy is in your arms they just disappear, I promise! It's wonderful, boys are so sweet in a unique way – but I have those thoughts of what if no more girls?! and all that but God knows best and has a perfect plan for your sweet family, keep trusting Him for all the details!! Lots of love & can't wait to hear your news – 5 days seems like a long wait for me to hear your news too!! haha 🙂

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  8. Rachel Jones
    December 21, 2012 at 3:02 am (5 years ago)

    I had the same fears for sure but the moment that boy is in your arms they just disappear, I promise! It's wonderful, boys are so sweet in a unique way – but I have those thoughts of what if no more girls?! and all that but God knows best and has a perfect plan for your sweet family, keep trusting Him for all the details!! Lots of love & can't wait to hear your news – 5 days seems like a long wait for me to hear your news too!! haha 🙂

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  9. Sweet Mama K
    December 21, 2012 at 8:06 pm (5 years ago)

    Thanks, Rachel! I am so glad that you are just a few steps ahead of me…especially if I have a boy. Have a Merry Christmas with your family of 4!

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  10. Sweet Mama K
    December 21, 2012 at 8:06 pm (5 years ago)

    Thanks, Rachel! I am so glad that you are just a few steps ahead of me…especially if I have a boy. Have a Merry Christmas with your family of 4!

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  11. Elizabeth
    December 22, 2012 at 3:31 am (5 years ago)

    I have one of each obvs and love it!! You cant go wrong. God designs the DNA of your family, genders, age gaps, everything!! Henry is a boy yet he is very sweet spirited and gentle. Hosanna on the other hand is spunky and more aggressive… I will be praying for the PERSON inside you and that you will just be madly in love with him/her. *I know you will be! Loving your other baby a ton is SO good for your older babe. I cant wait to find out what you are having! xoxoxo

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  12. Elizabeth
    December 22, 2012 at 3:31 am (5 years ago)

    I have one of each obvs and love it!! You cant go wrong. God designs the DNA of your family, genders, age gaps, everything!! Henry is a boy yet he is very sweet spirited and gentle. Hosanna on the other hand is spunky and more aggressive… I will be praying for the PERSON inside you and that you will just be madly in love with him/her. *I know you will be! Loving your other baby a ton is SO good for your older babe. I cant wait to find out what you are having! xoxoxo

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  13. Kirk and Chrissie
    December 23, 2012 at 5:16 am (5 years ago)

    I'm gonna wait until I hear pink or blue. If it's blue, I promise you I will have some encouraging things to say! Coming from a house full of girls growing up, I had NO IDEA what I was doing. But I absolutely, 100%, can not imagine my life without sweet little Elijah. My life is so much more interesting with him in it. Can't wait to hear!

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  14. Kirk and Chrissie
    December 23, 2012 at 5:16 am (5 years ago)

    I'm gonna wait until I hear pink or blue. If it's blue, I promise you I will have some encouraging things to say! Coming from a house full of girls growing up, I had NO IDEA what I was doing. But I absolutely, 100%, can not imagine my life without sweet little Elijah. My life is so much more interesting with him in it. Can't wait to hear!

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